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Are Parents Failing to Prepare Male Children for House Chores ahead of Marriage?

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A cross section of residents of the Federal Capital Territory (FCT) on Monday attributed parental failure in preparing the male children to engage in house choses as one of the factors leading to widespread failure of marriages.

The residents, in separate interviews with the Newsmen believe that parents only prepare their female children for marriage because of traditions, beliefs and personal mentality, hence, the lopsided preparation for the union.

It is believed that only female children undergo domestic trainings such as cooking, cleaning, laundry, baby sitting and similar chores under supervision of their mothers or other female adults.

Inemesit Emmanuel, a resident of Masaka, Nasarawa State, opined that it is because parents see their male children as  future heads of families, therefore encouraging lack of adequate preparations in domestic chores.

According to her, no family in Africa prepares their male children for marriage, this is an age-long African culture that has been in existence.

”Some parents see their male children as semi-gods who are to be pampered.

”Some cultures believe that women should be the ones train on how to be responsible, while  the men are to be sent to school so as to get better jobs,” she said.

She, however, said that preparing the male child for marriage is as important as preparing the female child, adding that the root problem in marriages is the lopsided training given to children.

Pascal Ibeawuchi,  resident of Durumi 3, in his opinion said that supposed lack of preparation of male children for marriage is based on family values and upbringing.

Ibeawuchi said that it is difficult to give what you don’t have, therefore, parents could not imbibe what they don’t have in their children.

According to him, parents not trained on how to take responsibilities themselves cannot train their children to take responsibilities.

”A father who was not raised on how to help in domestic work, respect and value his wife cannot change or make the son a responsible man.

”There are families that are nonchalant on their male children’s behaviours because they believe that when they marry, their wives will take up the responsibilities,” he said.

Ibeawuchi urged parents to train their male children on how to be responsible as that would help reduce number of irresponsible men in the society.

Vanessa Haakyav, a resident of UTC said that why parents don’t prepare their male children for marriage was due to emotional imbalance of the woman and societal beliefs.

Haakyav said that the society believes that a woman manages the home in every family so every responsibility should be on them.

According to her, most married women are not happy due to too much responsibilities and workload on them.

She said that society believes that it is the responsibility of a female child to know how to take care of the kids and do other house chores.

Haakyav said that a woman who is emotionally imbalanced could not raise a responsible man because she won’t have time to check the behaviors of their male children .

“The reason why most parents don’t prepare their male children for marriage is because of the emotional imbalance of the woman and societal beliefs.

“Society believes that it is the responsibility of a female child to know how to cook, wash plates, do laundry while male children are trained on how to make money “she said.

Haakyav urged that parents should engage their male children in doing house chores as they do to their female children.

Chinyere Gana, a resident of Gaduwa and a civil servant, said that why most parents don’t prepare their male children for marriage was based on individual’s mentality and tradition.

Gana said that some parents believe that training a male child to be responsible in domestic work is not as important as training a female child.

According to her, most parents believe that a female child is the one who will take care of her kids and other responsibilities needed in the family.

She said that tradition also puts pressure on the female child because it’s believed that she won’t live with her parents when she is grown for marriage.(NAN)

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OnTiv Professionals Association Condemns Claims on Yelwata by ALago  Union

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By David Torough, Abuja

The OnTiv Professionals Association (OPA), Abuja has described the statement credited to the Alago Ikweyi Gbayi Development Union (AIGDU) calling for land demarcation of Tiv ancestral homes, along Nasarawa and Benue boarder communities in the wake of the brutal attack and killings of innocent Benue citizens as insensitive, wicked and devoid of every sense of humanity and decency.

In a statement in Abuja, OPA President, Engr Abraham Aku regretted that, while the Benue community, the entire country and the world are yet to recover from the devastating effect and the pains over the June 13 Yelwata massacre by the armed Fulani invaders, the Alago people of Nasarawa State have sadly concerned themselves to claims of ownership of the bleeding community.

Aku said that the OPA read with deep concern and disappointment, the press release issued by the Alago Ikweyi Gbayi Development Union (AIGDU) in response to the remarks made by His Royal Majesty, the Tor Tiv, Prof. James Ayatse, during the condolence visit of President Bola Ahmed Tinubu to Benue State.

“We find it necessary to strongly respond to the misrepresentations and historical inaccuracies promoted in the said press release. The statement is a deliberate attempt to distort the identity, heritage, and territorial realities of the Tiv people in and around Yelwata.

“To set the historical facts clear,  Yelwata, both in administrative record and practical governance, is firmly located in Guma Local Government Area of Benue State therefore, their claims that Yelwata is in Keana Local Government Area of Nasarawa State is historically and administratively incorrect. 

“The community has functioned as such for decades, under successive civilian and military administrations, with Benue State government providing infrastructural services, conducting elections, and maintaining civil administration in the area.

“It is equally misleading to suggest that the Tiv are “latecomers” to Yelwata. The Historical Settlement Patterns shows that, the Tiv people have historically settled and cultivated lands across the Benue Valley, including Yelwata, long before modern administrative boundaries were imposed.

“Their presence is not merely residential but rooted in generations of ancestral occupation, farming, and social development.

“Moreover, the Tiv are recognized as indigenous peoples in parts of Nasarawa State, populating local government areas of Awe, Obi, Doma, Keana, and Lafia as well as 

“Nigeria is a multi-ethnic society where communities are often plural in composition so,r their claims of ownership and indigenous rights that Yelwata is an “Alago village” because a few members of the Alago or Gwandara ethnic groups are present there is not a sound basis for such sweeping conclusions.

“What matters is legal and administrative jurisdiction, historical occupation, and the will of the people, all of which support Yelwata’s standing as part of Guma LGA in Benue State”.

According to Engr Aku, the reference to Google Maps as evidence that Yelwata location is captured in Nasarawa State is flawed and simplistic.

“Google Maps are not considered as legal authority for boundary demarcation. The authoritative sources for inter-state boundaries in Nigeria remain the National Boundary Commission (NBC), official gazettes, and constitutional/legal instruments and none of these place Yelwata in Nasarawa State.

“Rather than inflame ethnic sentiments or attempt to rewrite geography, we call on the AIGDU and other stakeholders to prioritize peaceful coexistence, justice, and mutual respect. Efforts to settle border issues must be guided by truth, not ethnic domination or historical revisionism.

“We call on the Nasarawa and Benue State Governments, the National Boundary Commission, and the Federal Government of Nigeria to accelerate efforts to resolve boundary disputes in a just and transparent manner.

“We reaffirm our support for the Tor Tiv’s position, which was factual, dignified, and reflective of the pain and reality of the Tiv people in Yelwata and its environs.Let the truth be told and peace be pursued'” the statement partly read.

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Democracy: Sen. Abiru Urges Support for Tinubu

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 Sen. Mukhail Abiru (APC -Lagos) has  urged  continued support and understanding for President Bola Tinubu as he implements bold policy decisions aimed at repositioning the  nation for sustainable growth.

This is contained in his democracy day message by his Media Aide, Mr Enitan Olukotun  on Thursday in Ikorodu.

Abiru, who represents  Lagos-East,  urged   Nigerians not to loose hope but  to  continue to uphold the core values of democracy and seek constructive ways to consolidate the gains made over the years.

Abiru,  who is also the chairman, senate Committee on Banking, Insurance and Other Financial Institutions, stated that the democracy day called for  reflection and appreciation for how far Nigeria  had  come as a democratic nation.

“It has been 26 years since Nigeria began its journey under this current democratic dispensation.

“Though the path has not been without  challenges, we have every reason to celebrate the resilience, growth, and promise that our democracy represents.

“As we navigate this critical period in our nation’s history, I call for continued support and understanding for our dear President as he implements bold policy decisions aimed at repositioning our nation for sustainable growth.

Though the sacrifices may be difficult, they are necessary, and I am glad that the rewards have started manifesting across all sectors.

” I pay special tribute to the resilience, courage, and determination of the Nigerian people,” he said.(NAN)

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Sallah Was Good for Our Business—FCT Beauticians

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Beauticians, hairdressers, and grooming specialists across the Federal Capital Territory (FCT) said they recorded massive patronage during the just-celebrated Eid-el-Kabir festival.

During a visit to various salons and beauty parlors on Tuesday, beauticians said they had a huge customer turnout during the festive period.

Beauty professionals expressed immense satisfaction with the season’s turnout, describing it as one of the most rewarding times of the year.

Mrs Sahadatu Musa, a hairstylist in Nyanyan, shared her delight over the brisk business, noting the direct financial impact.

“I’m so happy. Business was great.

“What I’ve earned in the festive period will cover my children’s school fees and even new clothes for them.

It’s a real relief,” she said.

She added that service rates typically rose during the festive season due to high demand.

“I handled more than 50 clients in a day during the festive period and as the day was not even over yet, many customers still came.

“Some clients opted for home services to beat the long queues at salons.

“It cost more, N6,000 instead of the usual N4,000 but it was worth it,” she said.

Mr Abubakar Abdellah, a henna Artist in Lugbe, also reported strong demand, noting that festive designs were particularly popular.

“Red henna went for N4,000, while the black variety costs N8,000.”

Barbers also experienced a surge in patronage.

Mr Kabiru Umar, a barber in Bwari, noted that he had to expand both his services and workforce to meet the growing demand.”

“Parents came in with their kids for haircuts, beard trims, and general grooming.

“We even added services like manicures, pedicures, and face massages.

“To keep up, I upgraded equipment, restocked supplies, and hired more hands,” he said.

For tailors, the period was equally hectic.

Zainab Abubakar, a tailor in Jikwoyi, who specialises in women’s wear, described it as the busiest and most profitable season.

“Orders started coming in two to three weeks before Sallah, but the real rush hit in the final days.

“Women wanted abayas made from lace, chiffon, or crepe, modest but stylish.

“I even had to turn down some orders. Time management was crucial or you would end up disappointing people,” she said.

From makeup artists to barbers, stylists, and tailors, professionals across the FCT said the 2025 Eid-el-Kabir was not only spiritually uplifting but also financially and professionally rewarding, marking a truly successful and fulfilling holiday season.(NAN)

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